Why Now Is Definitely Not The Right Time to Make That Big Change!
You’re on the fence about whether to shake things up. You’re not sure now is the right time – and guess what? It’s not! I’ve been involved in some interesting conversations in the past week about the timing of big changes and how we decide whether to make the leap. It seems most of us consider timing as an important factor in the decision-making process.
My friend, Gretchen, who is ridiculously talented, wants to quit her job to pursue her passion for art but is afraid that now is not the time. What would her boss think after promoting her just last month? What if she burned bridges and then later couldn’t get hired back if she changed her mind?
A client who has been working full time while her hubby stays home with their two kids shared with me that she is yearning to move to Idaho and start a business that she has fully researched. She feels the responsibility of motherhood, and is questioning if now is the time to create stability rather than change for her family.
I am considering hiring a new assistant for my business and I find myself deliberating if now is the right time. What if things slow down and I’ve taken on an additional expense?
The reality is there is never the “perfect” time. While we can do our homework, make lists of pros/cons and try to time things well, there are usually too many variables to time things perfectly. While we wait for better timing, many external factors can change that result in a lost opportunity.
For every story of poor timing, there are many more about thriving despite tough times. I love learning about people who have pursued their goals without making timing the biggest criteria. For example, in the midst of the recession, award winning author Anne Patchett wanted to open an independent bookstore in Nashville. People told her she was crazy and cautioned her – brick and mortar bookstores were going out of business, the economy had not yet recovered, hard copy books were on the decline, the timing couldn’t have been worse. Yet, in November 2011, just months after the local Borders Bookstore had closed, she opened Parnassus Bookstore in Nashville with her business partner, Karen Hayes. Today, it is very successful and she has since become an advocate for independent bookstores and authors, giving authors a wonderful platform for book launches and readings.
If “it’s not the right time” is one of the top reasons you are not going after a goal, a dream, or a desire, consider these questions to help gain clarity:
What would need to happen in order for me to believe the timing was good?
What might I be fearful of or avoiding, other than timing?
What is the worst thing that could happen? Could I live with that?
If another year passes and I have not yet acted on this, will I be disappointed? What might the negative consequences be for NOT taking action?
What are you thinking about changing and what do you believe about timing? Join me on Facebook, where I’m building a community of like-minded people. I’d love to hear your thoughts and get your comments.